The "Change of Seasons"....

Ah..."The Change of Seasons"...an interesting time for the single people in this world. Being a single guy these past few years, and learning what that entails in the mid to later years in life, I have come across a strange familiarity in the "Change of Seasons". You know, it seems to be the time that everyone that is still single begins to re-evaluate their "status" in life. Hmmm...still single, do I want to continue to be single and enjoy all the fun and excitement a single life enables? No explaining where you were, who you were with, or what you were doing....or, do I want to become part of a team, a partnership with someone that has become dear to your heart. As you know, I met a wonderful woman (Lauri) with whom I can be myself, assist her in her needs, and her in mine. We are fine. We have been living together for 9 months now. What has me questioning things about where I stand in my personal life this past week or two has been the "Change of Seasons". What may you ask that I'm talking about? Well, as stated in the beginning of this blog, the "Change of Seasons" is the factor of apparently most if not all my past mini relationships, or the women that I have dated before Lauri, and because of the "Change of Seasons", are re-thinking their positions in life. What may you ask does this have to do with me? Well, this past week or so, I have been receiving flattering emails, text messages, surprise visits, etc. from these past romances in an effort to either spark, or rekindle something between us. Needless to say this has created some friction and confusion between Lauri and I. Of course I am flattered to still be one that is at least desirable to someone other than my spouse at my age. This causes one to ponder the thought of whether or not I am doing the right thing or following the right path, or did I really enjoy the single life in all of its excitement and unexpected treasures one comes to enjoy by being single. Its funny when you think back on your single life, with all the exciting parts seeming to stand out, when in fact, the sad and lonely times are not forgotten either. I believe when one becomes more mature (yes older) one tends to really look at the big picture and whats really important to ones self in order to achieve what one perceives as a happy and productive life. While its all fun and games in the single life, it lacks a real and comfortable contentedness of having someone you can confide in, to be open and honest with, to be able to not worry about the others fidelity, and being able to give ones self completely to another. To be a real couple, a team of "us" against the world so to speak. To find someone who is going to be there for you when the going gets rough, and works with you together to achieve a common goal is a very, very rare find indeed. A rare find that's to be cherished for sure. Although this past week or two I have been flattered beyond compare to be "wanted" by others, I have found myself deep in thought as to where I stand in my life and happiness. In my maturity, I now realize I am where I want to be. Not single. I also find myself smiling at all the things Lauri is to me. My friend. My lover. My confidant. My partner. My other half. The one I can truly count on if needed, and will always be there for me. So folks, as for the "Change of Seasons"....for me, this year the "Change of Seasons" has really become "The Season of Changes", the changes in my life, in which the realization that there is no longer the need for change....I have found what everyone looks for... I am happy and content, and looking forward to all the excitement, fun, and the changes that life has to offer..."Us"... Changes that we will deal with together, as a team.... May God bless us all... ;)